Love Is Not Poems

Discover heartfelt poems exploring what love is and what it's not.

Love isn’t just seen; it’s felt. It’s an attitude shown through your actions and how you treat and view others.

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Updated January 17, 2025, by Catherine Pulsifer


Love is a word often spoken, yet its depth and meaning are best understood when we pause to reflect. Many poems and writings have tried to capture the essence of what love truly is. However, understanding love sometimes starts with knowing what it is not.

The poems shared on this page beautifully contrast the qualities of love with what it lacks. They remind us that love is more than fleeting emotions, grand gestures, or the magical moments we often associate with it. Love is rare and precious, an enduring bond that we build with kindness, trust, patience, and forgiveness.

Through these verses, we see that love is not about selfish desires or quick tempers; rather, it is about nurturing understanding, offering compassion, and standing strong even when challenges arise. These reflections encourage us to grow into more loving individuals and to build relationships rooted in genuine care and respect.

May these poems inspire you to embrace love in its truest form, both in how you give it to others and how you receive it. As you read, let these words guide your thoughts and actions toward becoming the best version of yourself in love and in life.



  1. What Love Is Not


    Poet: Catherine Pulsifer


    Love is not unkind or cold,
    It’s not a story that quickly grows old.
    It’s not about pride or being right,
    Nor is it harsh words in the heat of a fight.

    Love doesn’t give up when times get tough,
    It doesn’t say, “I’ve had enough.”
    It’s not impatient or full of despair,
    It doesn’t forget how to show it cares.

    But love is a choice, a gift we give,
    It’s how we show others how to live.
    It’s kindness, patience, and a heart that stays,
    A light that shines through all our days.




  2. A short love poem describing love. The first part of the poem describes what love is not made of and the second half is all about what love is made of.

  3. Love Is Not Made Of...


    Poetry from Chambers' Journal


    Love is not made of kisses, or of sighs,
    Of clinging hands, or of the sorceries
    And subtle witchcrafts of alluring eyes.

    Love is not made of broken whispers; no!
    Nor of the blushing cheek, whose answering glow
    Tells that the ear has heard the accents low.

    Love is not made of tears, nor yet of smiles,
    Of quivering lips, or of enticing wiles:
    Love is not tempted; he himself beguiles.

    This is Love's language, but this is not Love.

    If we know aught of Love, how shall we dare
    To say that this is Love, when well aware
    That these are common things, and Love is rare?

    As separate streams may, blending, ever roll
    In course united, so, of soul to soul,
    Love is the union into one sweet whole.

    As molten metals mingle; as a chord
    Swells sweet in harmony; when Love is Lord,
    Two hearts are one, as letters form a word.

    One heart, one mind, one soul, and one desire,
    A kindred fancy, and a sister fire
    Of thought and passion; these can Love inspire.

    This makes a heaven of earth; for this is Love.




  4. Not and Is

    Poet; Catherine Pulsifer

    Love is not unkindness to others,
    Love is not showing compassion,
    Love is not forgiving,
    Love is not quick to anger,
    Love is not proud,
    Love is not distrustful,
    Love does not give up easily.

    Love is kindness shown to all,
    Love is a compassionate spirit,
    Love is a forgiving attitude,
    Love is patience shown,
    Love is understanding of others,
    Love is a trusting relationship,
    Love survives even in the most challenging times.



  5. Love survives even in the most challenging times.
    What Is Love Poem



    And a poem by the famous poet, e. e. cummings describes what love is - the opposite of what love is not!

  6. love is more

    Poet: e. e. cummings

    love is more thicker than forget
    more thinner than recall
    more seldom than a wave is wet
    more frequent than to fail

    it is most mad and moonly
    and less it shall unbe
    than all the sea which only
    is deeper than the sea

    love is less always than to win
    less never than alive
    less bigger than the least begin
    less littler than forgive

    it is most sane and sunly
    and more it cannot die
    than all the sky which only
    is higher than the sky




  7. L O V E   I S   N O T

    Poet: Catherine Pulsifer

    Loving others is a choice we make each day,
    Offering kindness in what we do and say.
    Vanity and pride have no place in love's embrace,
    Every moment shared should reflect its grace.

    In love, there’s no room for selfish gain,
    Supporting each other helps ease the pain.

    Never should love bring anger or despair,
    Open hearts show how much we care.
    Trust, forgiveness, and patience build love that's rare.


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